Mom Installs Camera To Discover Why Babysitters Keep Quitting, Breaks Down When She Sees The Footage

She could not understand why another babysitter had quit. This was the 6th person in a row. Now, what was going on? She wiped out the tears streaming down her face. She needed answers as to what was going on, but she was not prepared to find out what the reason behind everything was.

Bridget Elks was a mother trying to juggle her job with being a mother. It’s never easy, but she had to make it work to make ends meet. Her marriage had ended unexpectedly, and she had to get a full-time job just to stay afloat. Her three children were all that mattered to her, but she needed some help. After a long interview process, one woman seemed perfect for the job.

She would babysit one-year-old Kirk and six-year-old Marie. Lisa was hired, and Bridgette could finally put her mind at ease. But things wouldn’t go according to plan. Bridget counted her blessings for finding Lisa. When she did.

After only a few weeks, she almost felt like part of her family. She felt like she could finally focus on her work during the day. No more taking her kids to preschool and other activities. But then something unexpected happened. But after only three weeks, Lisa left a message for Bridget that left her speechless.

Lisa informed that she was resigning and asked to have her last paycheck ready. When Bridget got home, Lisa left without so much as a goodbye. What had changed? She was so happy to be her nanny up until now. Only after a bit of convincing did Lisa explain that her daughter Marie was the reason that she had quit.

But what could her child have done? She couldn’t believe it. She had to defend her child. She told Lisa that she was being unprofessional and had to start the hiring process from scratch again. But after six months, she would be on the verge of tears.

After six nannies all abruptly quit, Bridget couldn’t understand what was going on. She knew kids could be a handful sometimes, but surely that’s what they signed up for. Surely her children weren’t any worse than anyone else’s. Why did every nanny come to the same conclusion? Meg was the 7th nanny, and Bridgett knew this time would be different.

This time, nanny cams would show Bridget why they always left. Every nanny said that Murray was the issue at hand. So after setting up cameras everywhere, she wanted to see if her Darling could really be capable of anything. The new nanny seemed to be enjoying the job just fine. But just like every nanny before her.

Two weeks into the job, she resigned. At least she could now check back and see exactly why Meg resigned like all the others. But what she found terrified her. Bridget’s eyes grew wider the more she watched. She couldn’t believe what she was seeing.

Marie never acted this way around her, so she had no reason to believe all the babysitter’s vague allegations in the first week. Murray was a little angel, but toward the end, Bridget didn’t even recognize her own daughter. Bridget watched Meg politely ask Marie to hand her the baby’s diaper bag because her hands were full. You can’t tell me what to do, the little girl screeched. I’m the boss of you.

Every time Meg asked Marie to do something like wash her hands before lunch or get ready for school, Marie would refuse. Bridget was furious. The last straw for Meg had been the day she had resigned. She had asked Marie, who was running around and making noise, to please quiet down because her baby brother had just fallen asleep. I’m the boss of you.

I’ll get you fired, Murray screamed in the babysitter’s face. Bridget watched as Meg tried to deescalate the situation. Then she reached for her phone. Bridget sat Marie down and explained that she had to respect her babysitter. She showed her the evidence that she had been acting out and tried to talk to her calmly.

She asked the six year old if she thought her behavior was acceptable, but Marie’s response left her absolutely floored. We pay her. I’m her boss, Marie snapped back. Where was this behavior coming from? While Bridgett scrambled to try and find a replacement nanny, there was no one to take Marie to her swimming lessons.

When the little girl complained, Bridget pointed out that she was to blame. She is the reason that her sitter quit, and until I can find someone new, she won’t get to do the fun activities that her sitter took her to. The furious mom vented on parenting group on Facebook. But was that punishment enough? I was furious with my daughter and let her have it.

She had several things taken away from her, and she didn’t do anything remotely fun until recently, Bridgett continued. I also stopped arranging play dates for her and the friend who treated her nanny terribly. They don’t go to the same school, so they don’t see each other at all anymore. But what did other parents think her actions impacted someone enough to make them quit a job they were being paid to do? She has soiled her reputation as word spreads fast within the babysitter community.

If a child treats their caregiver like that, one mum wrote on the original post, I imagine this wasn’t three isolated events, but more like it was happening way more frequently. But those three times were when the babysitter was at her last straw. Then other babysitters leveled their opinion in the whole situation. I babysit some kids in the rich part of town and they have friends like Ops kids. Friends.

In the beginning, the kids tried to treat me like that. I had a chat with the parents and said they can deal with it on their end, but if they wanted me to keep watching the kids, I’d be dealing with it on my end too, one user replied. I was lucky that the parents supported my punishment. It definitely helps when the problem is tackled on both sides as a United force. But kids will be kids and what works for one definitely doesn’t work for all.

Then a professional chimed in, it sounds to me like she was unhappy with the situation, the fact she had a sitter in the first place. Vicki Broadbent, founder of the parents blog Honest Mom, wrote, maybe she wasn’t feeling like her needs were being met eg she might have felt she wasn’t being listened to, had lost all autonomy over even the smallest of decisions, clashed with her personality wise, or most likely was feeling a little abandoned by her parents in this scenario. So could Bridget have handled the whole situation differently? Vicky pointed out that while most single moms need help with childcare and are not abandoning their children when they get help, it may have been understandable for Marie to have felt let down by her mum. Vicki pointed out that Marie might have felt especially resentful about the whole situation when the reasons for needing a sitter were not explained to her properly by her mom.

Vicky said that it’s so important for parents to always explain the why behind decisions and scenarios, and this is especially true when they might affect them emotionally. Instead of just expecting Marie to accept a babysitter, she needed to be told exactly why Bridget had to hire one. So Bridget should have told Marie that she needed a babysitter because she had to work hard to be able to pay for Marie’s dolls, swimming lessons, food, etc. And the reason behind this reminding them how emotionally safe and loved they are, is key too. I personally hated having a nanny and later babysitters as a young child, Vicki explained.

I wanted to be with my parents at all times, which is completely normal and natural. And although it was explained to me that they needed to work, therefore I needed sitters, it didn’t make life that much easier for me. According to Vicki, Marie may have felt hurt or like her feelings weren’t being considered, which caused her to act out. Marie was trying to tell her mother that she didn’t want a sitter and her acting out was a cry for help. Does that mean Vicky thought Marie had behaved appropriately and that Bridget was in the wrong?

Yes, teaching children that they can’t be rude is crucial, but so is listening, Vicky said. And I mean really listening to them to the unspoken as well as the spoken cues and empathizing with their behavior while explaining better ways to express themselves so as not to hurt others. But Vicki noticed something else about Marie’s behavior that indicated the scenario wasn’t quite as cut and dry as it seemed. Bridget was right to tell Marie that she had been hurtful, but she should have also tried to understand why Marie was acting out in the first place. If they can’t describe why it’s hard, even for adults to self reflect and psychoanalyze themselves.

Then it’s your job as a parent to put in the Detective work and ensure they feel more supported, Vicky said, so who else was in the wrong here? Furthermore, in this scenario, an adult must have at some point told the girl that she was the boss of her sitter, either in jest or in all seriousness. As age six is quite young to understand the complexities of money and the power that might give someone, Vicky concluded, children learn the difference between right and wrong before too. And experts believe teaching your children how to have a high emotional IQ can start early on in as well. But it is important to remember that children learn as adults do from making mistakes, so listening, empathizing and also modeling behavior is the key in educating your child.